You are better off to run into a wall then make your New Years Resolution
Ok, here is what I want you to do…
Take your ideas about setting these amazing New Years resolutions, about making huge changes this year, about breaking through all of those obstacles and throw all of these ideas away. That’s right, forget about ’em, stop it, quit hurting yourself, leave them aside, and never ever think about them that way again.
Why am I so angry about New Years Resolutions: because they do nothing except set you up for failure!
I am so tired of watching people waste their time, energy, and resources trying to make the impossible happen that I have decided to share with you this very powerful secret about making change happen in 2010.
1st off – It is not your fault your new years resolutions are not working, it is the fault of how you were taught to make them. To resolve to do something implies doing it in the future. Among the many definitions of the word resolution, Merriam Webster says:
“a formal expression of opinion, will, or intent”
There is your problem! How the hell are you suppose to get anywhere if you merely intend to.
Do not get me wrong about resolutions. They have certain components that are positive. The real issue is they leave you with only part of the solution to making change, the desire to change. Ever changed a bad habit by simply thinking “gee, I would like to not do this anymore.”?
For most all of us that line of thinking is not enough to change anything. We might for a moment, only to end up sliding back into the habit again at a later date.
2nd – You need to set goals properly. What does a proper goal look like? Every goal you have should strive to include as many of these working parts as possible: Timely, Measurable, Beyond Your Comfort Zone, Realistic (varies by person), and most importantly POSITIVE.
TIP – Positive does not mean happy or cheerful, it means towards something. It is crucial that when goal setting you are thinking about moving towards a goal rather then away from a state of being. For example: GOOD I am going to eat three healthy meals a week for dinner – BAD I am going to eat 4 less take out meals for dinners a week. — This goes for anything, always make the goal towards the desired result and not away from unwanted action.
ACTION STEP ONE FOR MAKING A GREAT YEAR:
Once you set your goals you need to take one more big step that most miss. It is time to drill down to your next objective. What do you need next to move one step closer to your goal? If someone were to knock at your door right now and offer you a product, connection, or service what would that be? That is what you are going after. That is your true goal.
ACTION STEP TWO FOR MAKING A GREAT YEAR:
Now that you have your next step goal it is time to take this goal and move it into reality. In order to do this you are going to have to make your goal part of your mental state. This is achieved by making properly written affirmations and practicing moving into the mental state of action and readiness for your goals.
A properly written affirmation (according to Lou Tice of The Pacific Institute) is written in present time, is positive, personal, emotional, and detailed. To make this easier lets go through some examples.
GOOD AFFIRMATION – “I easily and comfortable work out 30 minutes at the gym feeling great about my work out”
BAD AFFIRMATION – “I will work out hard so I am no longer out of shape by going to the gym 4 times a week”
At first glance the second affirmation does not sound so bad, until we dig into the psychological effect of telling your self this kind of affirmation. Let’s break it down:
“I will” this is telling yourself that you plan on doing something when you should be telling your self that you are doing something.
“work out hard” this is difficult to measure.
“no longer out of shape” this puts your focus on being out of shape and should be directing you towards being in good shape.
“by going” implies a future action not a today action. There is a sign at a local pub that reads “Free Beer Tomorrow”…you get the point.
ACTION STEP THREE –
Now that you have a next step goal, a few affirmations about building positive change in your life, you need to focus and read your affirmations every morning and every night religiously.
You are able to make any change in your life and the best change happens only after you work hard to create it. This is not easy, nothing worth having is! Take the moment each morning, each night, and make your life worth improving. For your family, for your health, for your success just make it happen…How does this start?
Right now, write down your goal, then drill down, and then while you are at it, try writing another affirmation. Once you reach your next step goal repeat this process until you are out of goals to reach (which better be never).
If you would like more help, email me. I would be more then happy to proof read your affirmation for you. If you want to stay motivated for the first 30 days of your new year go here and I will email you a motivational quote and tip everyday for 30 days —http://www.jabezlebret.com/daily.html
It all starts with one step, one moment, and you can become the person you are truly capable of being.
